Softscaffold

Pocket = bible · Drill cards = your sessions

Today
In the moment (15 seconds)
  1. Notice client signal + session phase
  2. Notice my urge (advise / fill / rescue / lead / justify / why)
  3. If urge ≥ medium → Self-regulation first
  4. Else: reflect meaning (listen) → at most one stem — or none
  5. Silence — never stack · never justify the question
Reflect before inquire No default WHY One question Then silence Invite · don’t lead

Marker IDs contribute evidence toward PCC behaviors when used skillfully in context — they never equal a pass. Assessors grade the whole conversation, not stem labels.

Session arc (PCC open → close)

Glance before the call. At close: pick any 2 learning/growth stems — not the full list.

Compact pocket default

Judgment under pressure: Core 3 + listen first + session agreement. Expand depth only if needed.

More muscles (depth · close library — optional)

Use one deepen move when the moment asks — not a tour of every card. Stems still only contribute toward markers.

Your Mx drill cards

Pocket = universal concepts. Drill cards = stems and rules from your Anup evaluations (M2, M3…). Open the active card before the next session.

How to use Softscaffold

Two layers

LayerWhat it isWhen
Pocket Reference bible · decision flow · muscles · session arc Before + during any session
Mx drill card Learning from one evaluated call (Anup AQs, avoid, stems) Before next call · focus practice month

Before a session (~3 min)

  1. Open Drill cards → active card (e.g. M3) → rules only.
  2. Pocket compact: session arc + Core (incl. Reflective Listening) + agreement.
  3. Remember close rule: pick any 2 growth stems.
  4. Leave compact Pocket open — do not expand depth unless needed.

During (~glance only)

  1. 15-second flow: urge → self-reg → reflect → one stem or none → silence.
  2. One compact card if stuck — not a script.
  3. Marker chips only contribute toward evidence — never chase a label.

After (with Anup)

Mentor evaluation replaces in-app logging. After mentoring, we fold new AQs into the next M(x+1) drill card. Pocket stays stable; drill cards evolve.